The Balanced Life, Huntsville Alabama

I have a confession to make. I am NOT perfect, nor do I have my stuff together 100% of the time. Actually, if I had to estimate on my best days I’m probably tracking at 75% of my stuff being together. I too forget things, procrastinate, and/or engage in other totally human behavior. I've found that life is much more enjoyable and my relationships are better when I give myself and others a break for being less than perfect. Also playing “Patty Perfect” is exhausting. Below you will find ways to give yourself and others a break when we fall short. 

Make peace with the fact that we are not meant to be perfect

So for you to successfully make it through this list, it is imperative to accept that we are built to be imperfect. Our flaws, mistakes, and imperfections make us relatable and human. Flaws and mistakes are often opportunities for personal growth and learning. 

Offer help instead of criticism

This is big one! When you or someone else makes a mistake instead of poking more holes by criticizing, step in and try to help. Helping can take on many forms. Helping may be collaboratively completing a task or lending moral support.

Try to be understanding

We’re all guilty of jumping to conclusions instead of trying to understand someone’s behaviors or intentions. Ask questions, get a clear understanding, and then act accordingly. It is much easier to give yourself and others a break if you have a better understanding of the situation at hand.

Forgive yourself and others

Giving forgiveness can be very difficult depending on the circumstance. However, harboring resentments or regrets anchor us down and compromise our quality of life and ability to move forward.

Take an actual break

It does not matter if it is 5 minutes or 5 days, everyone needs time away. Take the time you need to recharge your batteries

Celebrate small victories

Obviously, every time we do something remotely positive, we do not need to throw a parade, but it is great to pat yourself and others on the back for a job well done. Make an effort to acknowledge and celebrate your own victories and the victories of others.

Understanding there is always more to be done

No matter how much we do there is always more that could be done. Do not overwhelm yourself with stuff that does not matter in the grand scheme of things in an effort to be “better, faster, stronger.”

Stop keeping score  

Going tit for tat is no way to go through life. When you give to someone, give with the possibility it may not be reciprocated, or reciprocated in a different way. Keeping score is a surefire way to ruin a relationship and muddle your intentions. By not keeping score, you’re able to give freely and be a blessing to others.

If you find it difficult to give yourself or others a break this list is a great place to start. However, if you need more please contact me or one of my colleagues at The Balanced Life LLC (256)258-7777.