Party of Two
- by Lindsey Sheckles, ALC
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in Relationships
Being in a relationship can be wonderful but equally as trying at times. Unfortunately, we sometimes compound stress when we draw other people in during rocky times in our relationships. In times of stress it is best practice to go straight to the source (your partner), handle things in house and work towards a solution as a team.
Bringing in outside parties and compounding relationship issues is twofold. One, sometimes receiving too much feedback can result in confusion instead of solutions. Have you ever asked several friends or family members their opinion and ended up more indecisive than when you started? Yeah, me too! Instead, limit your request for feedback to a few trusted and solid sources when need.
Second, sharing your relationship issues with friends or family can unintentionally cast your partner in a negative light. While you may be blowing off steam, the person you’re sharing information with may change their perception of your partner. Furthermore, once issues have been worked out your sounding board could potentially still be reeling from what was shared.
Instead, talk to your partner about how you are feeling and try to work most issues out “in house”. If you feel like you need a second opinion, seek help from an objective party or a professional. No relationship is perfect. We all need to blow of a little steam and get guidance, but make sure when you seek out guidance or vent you are making things better!
