Self Care Guide: Holiday Edition
- by Michaela Whitehead, LPC
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in General
I often have clients request more frequent appointments around the holidays. They report increased pressure at work, family stress, and feelings of being overwhelmed. While we see the holiday season advertised as a time for celebration and joy, this can actually be a very difficult time for many people. This can be a time when we focus on everything except our own well being. So, with this in mind, here are a few self care tips for the holiday season.
- Be selective about the events you attend. You do not have to RSVP "yes" to everything you're invited to during the holidays. Choose the parties and gatherings that fit into your schedule rather than trying to squeeze your life in between social obligations. This way, you will genuinely enjoy the events that you do choose to attend.
- Keep in mind what is truly important to you. Envision the experience you want to have and how you can achieve this goal. The holidays are not about buying expensive gifts and going overboard with fancy decorations, but rather about being with people who you love and creating new and special memories together.
- Set boundaries. Stick with the healthy boundaries you set with family and friends. You will enjoy your holidays more if you spend them with people who respect your boundaries and do not try to push limits or set unrealistic expectations of you.
- Strive to stay present. It can be easy to slip back into dwelling on painful past memories around the holidays. We can also worry about what the future holds. Focus on having positive conversations and practicing gratitude for the people and experiences in your present life.
- Practice self compassion. Honor and acknowledge your own feelings and take time for self reflection. Take breaks to listen to music, meditate, read, and do quiet activities that allow you to recharge your batteries.
Remember, the holidays are meant to be a break. You are allowed to treat your time off as an opportunity to practice self care rather than cater to everybody else. And, if at any time the plans you have made no longer feel conducive to your mental or emotional well being, you have permission to alter them. Here's wishing you a stress free holiday season!
